Couples Therapy

There is a Spanish proverb, “Where there is love, there is pain.” For most of us, relationships are a source of joy and pain. It’s challenging to nurture and deepen a long-term committed relationship as we face the inevitable problems in life and love. We all get stuck in familiar and new ways as we try to grow together and separately.

Fortunately, there is hope for couples experiencing pain in their relationship or who want to restore or renew their love. Couples therapy is effective in helping couples with a wide range of relationship problems and challenges, including:

  • frequent fighting or arguments
  • emotional distance or loneliness
  • loss of love, affection, or passion
  • sexual issues or differences
  • affairs, infidelity, or jealousy
  • addiction recovery
  • work or money issues
  • parenting differences
  • physical or mental illness
  • problems with extended family
  • pregnancy, miscarriage, or infertility
  • boredom or not having fun
  • lack of meaning or purpose
  • religious or spiritual differences
  • values or lifestyle differences
  • adjustment to life transitions

I have been trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, two evidence-based therapies with a proven record of effectiveness with couples. Together, these therapies can help couples improve their friendship and intimacy, manage conflict in a compassionate and constructive way, develop new patterns of healthy communication, and create a life of shared meaning and purpose. Couples learn how to develop a deeper and more secure emotional bond that nourishes them during the good times and bad.

Couples therapy involves two phases:

  1. The assessment phase focuses on fully understanding your relationship history, the strengths and problem areas in your relationship, and your therapy goals. This phase typically involves completion of an online relationship assessment and 4 sessions with me:
    • 1st session
      Initial session together as a couple

      Between 1st and 2nd session
      Both partners must complete online assessment before the next session

      2nd session
      Individual session with one partner

      3rd session
      Individual session with other partner

      4th session
      Feedback session to discuss assessment results, therapy goals, and treatment plan

    At the end of this phase, we will make a decision together about whether couples therapy is the best treatment for you, based on your needs and goals. Often it is, but sometimes it’s not. If it’s not, I will tell you and we can discuss referrals and other treatment options to help you reach your goals.

  2. The intervention phase focuses on helping you and your partner develop practical skills to reach your therapy goals. This phase sometimes takes only a few sessions, but may require more. For many couples, I recommend regular sessions for a minimum of 3 to 6 months followed by a review of therapy progress and discussion about whether to continue or conclude therapy. Additional sessions can be scheduled if needed or desired. During this phase, interventions typically may be structured around nine components of healthy relationships, or what is more commonly called the Sound Relationship House.

Your relationship is important, and I’m so glad you’re considering couples therapy!

To schedule an appointment, please call me at (254) 751-1550.